Everyday we make a decisions, some of them are very small, like with whom I will see today, what I will eat... and the other are big one, like where will we live, where I will work,...
Most of use don't have problem to make a small decision, but for the big one we need time, one day till one or more months. But our life is like this, that we need to take our responsibility and make our decisions. The same point is in relationship, every day when you wake up, you decid by yourself how will you survive this day. Your decision is if you will be positive and happy when you will see your partner of if you will be angry and unsatisfied with everything.
You know situation, when you have been angry, when someone told you that you hadn't done all of your work in right time or you hadn't done it well. You have been angry at this person, but you haven't say anything to him/her. Then you just come home or see you partner and when he/she did something wrong and you throw all the rage to him/her. Your partner didn't expected this kind of reaction and he/she would be angry because you had to attack him/her....
But if you look on this story from outside, you can see that the problem was, because you didn't take a responsibility for you anger. Yes, you are responsible for you feelings and you need to remodel your feelings, before you react to someone. You take responsibility and decision that you will remodel feelings and to react like a adult person and say to your partner what got you angry.
The two rules in today lectons are:
1) You and only you are responsible for your feelings
2) Every day you take a decisions in your life
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